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Author of The Compliment Quotient reveals how couples can escape threats to relationship from seven-year itch feelings of being taken for granted and offers five tips for couples to spark more romance for Valentine’s Day and beyond using the power of compliments and appreciation
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Online PR News – 06-February-2012 –Couples can avoid the perils of a seven-year itch that has them looking outside a relationship for excitement and connection—-now documented to occur as early as a "three-year glitch"--by giving each other more compliments, according to Monica Strobel, author of The Compliment Quotient: Boost Your Spirits, Spark Your Relationships and Uplift the World.
Recent research revealed couples give each other one to three compliments a week in the first year of their relationship, dropping to no compliments by five years. “When it comes to reigniting more romance in a relationship, couples should restore their early practice of voicing appreciation of each other more often,” Strobel says. “Couples often look for a “magic passion pill” when what's reducing desire is a culmination of feeling taken for granted,” she adds.
Passion often declines long into a relationship as a couple focuses on work issues, family commitments and common relationship gripes. Compliments provide an overlooked but powerful combination of positivity, emotion and immediacy that help interrupt the routine of work and family demands, suspend resentments and refocus on the attraction and romantic feelings between a couple originally.
"Stoking the mind-body-heart connection by taking more opportunities to notice what’s working and give more compliments may be more time consuming than simply giving chocolates or flowers for Valentine’s Day, but is more rewarding in the extra neurons of passion it builds," Strobel says.
Five ways to spark more romantic desire with compliments:
1) Put on your compliment glasses. Quit focusing on the negative and renew attention by looking for something positive about your partner. This interrupts, even momentarily, disagreements and taking for granted.
2) Err on the plus side. Renew your interest and connection by giving more compliments than criticism for a day, a week or longer. A simple equation is to give three compliments for each negative comment, but double that to spark even more appreciative feelings.
3) Take a look with fresh eyes. You may need to look at your partner in a less familiar way to jumpstart your compliments. Try stopping by their office or standing across the field at your child’s sports game. This can stir memories of early attraction that help revive passionate feelings.
4) Unearth your flirt. Add in some flirtatious compliments to recapture some of the feelings you had when you first confessed your attraction to each other. Think simple sweet-talk or more sassy and sensual. Making the other person feel desired sparks your interest, too.
5) Complimentize your Valentine’s Day gift. Beyond the joy and comfort of a long-term loving relationship and marriage, a woman desires reassurance of still being attractive to her mate and a man desires respect, which is often left to outsiders as time goes on. Add these into a Top 5 Reasons You are Amazing list to your gift and grow more romantic feelings long past the holiday.
In The Compliment Quotient, author and America's Complimentologist Monica Strobel details the simple yet powerful practice of giving compliments to grow more happiness, improve parenting and relationships, and counteract a growing culture of callousness. Strobel, America’s Complimentologist, is an author, speaker, founder of the Positive-Focus Success Institute and mom-preneur dedicated to teaching simple positivity practices for more well-being and success. More information at www.complimentquotient.com
About Monica Strobel
Monica Strobel is the author of The Compliment Quotient: Boost Your Spirits, Spark Your Relationships and Uplift the World, a motivational speaker, personal development expert, mom-preneur and founder of the Positive-Focus Success Institute. She empowers busy people and businesses to harness simple positivity practices for more well-being, better relationships, more success and contributing to the world around them. More information at www.complimentquotient.com.
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